Title: The Teenage Guide to Friends
Author: Nicola Morgan
Publisher: Walker Books
Genre: Teen, Non-fiction, Advice/Self-help
Description: Friendships and peer groups can cause problems and upsets in your teenage years. People can be confusing – until you understand how different personality traits, stresses and emotions affect their behaviour. Yours too!
The Teenage Guide to Friends is for anyone who wants to know how friendship works, and what to do when they don’t. In this book you’ll find advice on how to make and keep friends, as well as positive strategies to help you through the tough times and make you feel more confident.
My Review: This is such a great book, I wish I’d had this to read when I was a teenager at school. Everyone when they are teenagers go through a lot of changes and so much can happen when friendship is involved. Some of us worry about making friends, while others worry about being pressurised by friends or even bullied a little by them. Whatever the problems, this book is a great source of information on all things to do with friends and friendships.
The book is separated into four parts, the first is all about friends and covers details such as what toxic friends can be and crucially information about online friends like those found through social media. The second part is all about how to make friends. The third section is about empathy which is important in friendship and understand how others behave and the fourth section, which is also the largest, covers behaviour and personality.
It was easy to read this book right away and I really enjoyed it, even now as an adult, as it covered simple things such as how open or closed you appear to people on a daily basis, something which I hadn’t realised can affect how people react to you when you initially meet them. The way the book is written is really helpful as it never feels like an adult preaching advice but instead it feels as if a friend is offering advice on how things can be and how you could react in a certain situation.
Although each of the sections is really informative and helpful, especially when discussing social media (something which wasn’t an issue yet when I was at school) I mostly enjoyed the last section of the book as it gave a real insight into certain personality and behaviour types including my own. This section covered a variety of things from how introverted and extroverted you are to how anxious you are or whether you are a person who handles stress and other things well. I also liked the focus on the unfortunate, but entirely possible, darker personality types you can meet. The book not only explained what sort of people you may meet but also how you can interact with them if they treat you badly, or whether it’s better to avoid them.
Every section of the book has a quiz or quizzes which helps you realise how you act or what sort of person you are. At the end of the book there is quite a large section of resources which contains so many different websites and interesting articles and studies, but rather than just stating these in alphabetical order, Nicola Morgan has taken the time to explain what the resources are and why they might be useful. There is also an index at the back of the book.
I really enjoyed this book and wish it was available when I was at school. Whether it would help someone like me who was shy and very introverted to make new friends is not guaranteed, but it would have helped me to see how my behaviour or reactions to people might make it hard to make friends and it would have also helped me to understand how some other people’s reactions weren’t anything to do with me, which overall would have given me greater confidence, I think, while at school. I think any teenagers will benefit from this book and even those a little younger who are starting to feel the pressure of school and their peers. Even as an adult I found parts of it very useful as some of the basic issues around friendships are relevant even as an adult. This is a great book I can really recommend.
-Thanks to Walker Books for a free copy.
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